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Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too | 
 enlarge | Authors: Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
Publisher: Collins Living
Category: Book
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Rating:  75 reviews
Sales Rank: 874
Media: Paperback
Edition: Expanded
Pages: 272
Number Of Items: 1
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Dimensions (in): 7.9 x 5.2 x 0.7
ISBN: 0380799006
Dewey Decimal Number: 649.143
EAN: 9780380799008
ASIN: 0380799006
Publication Date: February 1, 1998
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Amazon.com Review
With a title like this, it's no surprise that authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish had a monster bestseller on their hands when the book first appeared in 1988. From the subsequent deluge of readers' stories, questions, and issues, they have created nearly 50 pages of new material for this, the 10th anniversary edition. The central message remains the same, and sounds almost too simple: avoid comparisons. But parents know that's easier said than done. The value of Faber and Mazlish's discussions is precisely that they talk you through umpteen different situations and outcomes to help you teach your brawling offspring a new set of responses. The highly informative text is punctuated with helpful summary/reminder boxes and cartoons illustrating key points. It's a must-read for parents with (or planning on) multiple children. But parents of young children who get along fine (so far) should read it too--as the authors make very clear, rivalry is inevitable. The only question is how to manage the rivalry with intelligence and compassion, and on that subject they offer a wealth of good advice. --Richard Farr
Product Description
When the authors of the childcare classic How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk wrote the sanity-saving Siblings Without Rivalry, grateful parents everywhere rushed to buy the book that offered solutions to constant squabbling. As the book skyrocketed to the top of bestseller lists all over the country, the authors were deluged with letters of praise and requests for personal advice on a subject that was central to all parents of two or more children. Now, after ten years of communicating with parents through letters, TV and radio talk shows, and in their workshops, the authors have added fresh thoughts and information for special situations. "Home alone" children are given particular attention, and the authors also show how to help very young children interact in positive ways. Siblings Without Rivalry guides the way to peace and tranquility with humor, compassion and understanding, and the illustrated, action-oriented, easy-to-understand stories will make life easier for both siblings and their parents. When the authors of the childcare classic How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk wrote the sanity-saving SIBLINGS WITHOUT RIVALRY, grateful parents everywhere rushed to buy the book that offered solutions to constant squabbling. As the book skyrocketed to the top of bestseller lists all over the country, the authors were deluged with letters of praise and requests for personal advice on a subject that was central to all parents of two or more children. Now, after ten years of communicating with parents through letters, TV and radio talk shows, and in their workshops, the authors have added fresh thoughts and information for special situations. "Home alone" children are given particular attention, and the authors also show how to help very young children interact in positive ways. SIBLINGS WITHOUT RIVALRY guides the way to peace and tranquility with humor, compassion and understanding, and the illustrated, action-oriented, easy-to-understand stories will make life easier for both siblings and their parents.
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Read their other books too - but this was HUGE when we added our 2nd child January 7, 2009
Just-a-Mom (San Jose, CA United States)
Fortunately for us, we were already exploring parenting books and had read "How to Talk" by the time our 2nd child was due. This book opened our eyes to things that people say to or expect from the older sibling that can get things off to a bad start, and then of course build over the years. We were lucky, I think, to get off to such an easy start. My girl and boy -still- like to do things together and talk/support/hang with with each other, even as teens. They also are building their own lives separate from each other, but are clearly friends.
The techniques and insights can be applied to any ages, as others have posted here about diffusing situations with their kids. I always talk about this book if the topic of sibling fights comes up - we've had so few in all these years. So now I'm reviewing it finally too, after so many years of recommending it in person. (I also recommend "How to Talk...")
Try Having Twins! January 5, 2009
Busy Mom (Larkspur, CA)
When my twins started arguing incessantly, I knew I needed help! I went to ParentsDigest to figure out which books sounded most helpful. This one appealed to me because the authors actually asked other parents what worked (or didn't) when they were younger, as well as what seemed to increase or decrease the level of rivalry between their children. It was like getting advice not just from the authors, but from the wisdom of hundreds of other parents who'd been in my shoes as well.
Wow, why didn't I think of that? November 16, 2008
Rachel (Louisiana)
This is hands down the most helpful parenting book I have read. It will not only help you understand why you may have experienced rivalry with your own siblings, it will help you prevent these same issues from injuring your own childrens' bonds. The authors use support group participants' real-life examples to discuss how we, as parents, unknowingly label our children (He's our athlete, she's our artist, etc.), create unfair comparisons (Your sister ate all of her vegetables, your brother made an "A", etc.), become the referee in disputes rather than facilitating problem-solving, and many more. Unlike many other parenting books available, this will leave you with specific guidelines and ideas that you can actually use and receive immediate results.
Just What We Needed! October 31, 2008
Ambika (Norway)
I have two daughters who used to get along quite well. But since the summer, their acceptable level of sibling rivalry has escalated to a very uncomfortable level. We were desperate to "nip it in the bud" before things really got out of hand. This book is already doing the trick - and it only arrived in the post yesterday! I practically devoured the book as soon as I took it out of the package!
My husband gave me the task of reading up on things, because I'm a very fast and focused reader, and we needed the help a.s.a.p! I finished the book today, and have started reading it again to take notes and make summaries to keep on hand. I have already put some of the lessons into practice and notice the difference already. For example, arguments are easily diffused because feelings are validated. I've also stopped "positive comparison", after I read, with horror, the potential harm it can do.
This book may be a bit of a shock for parents who are used to saying, "because I said so!" or who use physical punishment. However, for us, it is another step forward in the journey of being the liberal parents we consider ourselves to be.
Awesome Reading! September 23, 2008
Bizzy Mom of 4 (SouthCentral LA)
This book not only helped me with my relationship with my kids...it helped me understand some of the issues between my siblings & me & my parents while growing up. Must read if you have children!
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